When should I consider premarital counseling?
If you are in a committed relationship and the topic of marriage has come up for the 2 of you, then it is never too early to start premarital counseling. In fact, the sooner, the better. Couples in the past have found it to be helpful to start premarital counseling anywhere from 6-12 months prior to getting married. Whether you are officially engaged, or working toward the engagement stage of the relationship, premarital counseling can help both of you work on targeted relationship goals, in preparation for getting married.
How long does premarital counseling last?
An average premarital counseling session typically lasts between 54-60 minutes. The length of time that it takes to complete the entire premarital counseling process may vary from couple to couple and is dependent on the relationship goals that the both of you want to achieve. In the beginning of the process, couples engage in premarital counseling sessions once per week. Over time, the frequency of visits gradually reduce to once every two weeks, and eventually once per month, until all therapy goals are fully accomplished. On average, it takes about 6-12 months for couples to complete the entire premarital counseling process. Again, this is a rough estimate average and some couples takes more or less time than this depending on the nature and intensity of the therapy goals that you hope to achieve.
What types of issues are addressed in premarital counseling?
In any committed relationship, there are so many variables that can disrupt and interfere with the potential for both people to experience security. Many couples consider getting married, but hesitate to follow through with taking the next step in the relationship due to some of the following common issues:
- Communication and Conflict resolution issues
- Setting firm boundaries with family members
- A history of infidelity
- Pornography addictions or history of other addictive behaviors
- Intimacy issues
- Sexual trauma
- Life transitions
- Agreeing on parenting/disciplinary skills
If any of these issues sound like they apply to you, then you may want to consider pursuing premarital counseling.
What is the purpose of premarital counseling?
The purpose of premarital counseling is to provide couples with the necessary tools to live out healthy and secure marriages! No two couples are alike, and because of this, we work hard to tailor an approach to premarital counseling that is helpful and effective for you and your significant other. Some things that you can expect to get from premarital counseling are:
- Strategies for improving communication
- Techniques for improving conflict resolution skills
- Understanding the root causes of and finding victory over addictive behaviors
- Improving intimacy
- Exploring strategies for increasing sexual intimacy
- Rebuilding trust following a history of infidelity
- Strategies for setting firm boundaries with in-laws
- Understanding unhealthy generational family patterns and breaking out of these cycles
- Being on the same page in terms of a mission and vision statement for marriage
- Figuring out whether or not to continue the relationship
What happens after we finish premarital counseling?
Hopefully, you both will have decided to follow through with getting married after the premarital counseling process is complete! If so, Jonathan Le, the CEO and Founder of Anchor Point Professional Counseling happens to be a wedding officiant and would be more then happy to officiate your wedding for you! To learn more about fees and rates for this type of service, feel free to reach out to Anchor Point today!